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The Worry Club Help
Line 1-866-worry4u provides confidential emotional
support, 24 hours a day for people who are experiencing
feelings of distress or despair, including worry, stress and
other problems. We are here for you if you’re worried about
something, feel upset or confused, or you just want to talk
to someone
What happens when I
call The Worry Help Line
When you phone, we will will not judge you or tell
you what to do. We might ask you how you are feeling and
invite you to talk about your feelings. We give you the time
and space that you need to talk if you want to.
“The person at the
other end of the phone gave time to me to speak to me and
asked me gentle questions and waited for my response. It
made me feel that I wasn’t the only one that was going
through it, really, which helped me quite a lot. At the end
of the phone call I did feel better- not better enough to be
out of the crisis but better in that I felt better that I
had spoken to somebody about it. I didn’t feel quite so
isolated.”
“I really liked the way the woman dealt with my problems.
She was very calm and did not judge. She seemed to
understand and appeared generally interested and sympathetic
with my state. I like the way you deal with things in a
personal and anonymous way, as it is very difficult for me
to talk about my ongoing depression, but I never feel
pressured to do so or say anything I am not happy
revealing.” Worry caller
Why do people call
you?
People contact us for
completely individual reasons. Commonly mentioned are
relationships, work, money, stress and feeling alone.
“It is like a sort of safety blanket to me, as I know
that I can always talk to someone who is not connected to
anything and will not pre-judge me or the situation I am in.
The time I contacted The Worry Club was when I had all my
family around me, was in a loving environment and was
completely ’safe’. However, sometimes this can be the most
lonely time. I am just so glad my mother gave me the
1-866-worry4u number; otherwise I don’t know what would have
happened.”
“People suggested to me that I call The Worry Club if
I felt desperate at night. I was feeling very upset, I
didn’t know what to do. So I just rang the Worry Club to see
what they would say, to see if they could help me.” “At the
end of that day everyone deals differently with their own
problems. Everybody’s different.”
Why don’t people
talk to friends and family instead?
Some people do not have the support of friends or family.
Others do but find that talking to someone neutral can be
beneficial.
“It can be quite frightening when you’re very
emotionally lonely and you can’t sleep and you can’t call
anyone because you don’t want to disturb people and worry
them. If you called your friends at 3am in the morning, you
would worry them and you might annoy them a bit. I don’t
think I could cope with that either. And sometimes fiends
and family can’t be neutral because they’re very involved
with you and when you’ve been ill so long, they may lose
patience. It’s good to be able to talk to someone who’s kind
of neutral and not caught up in it all.”
“I found talking things through very helpful,
especially at a time when I had exhausted the ears of
friends and family. It was helpful to have someone calm and
neutral and there at all times of the day. The troubles and
crises you find yourself in, all seem to overwhelm you at a
time when a friend or relative would find it inconvenient.
Also, sometimes feelings that overwhelm you and seem
insurmountable at night, often seem far more cope-able in
the morning. For that reason, talking to The Worry Help
Line is very helpful because they don’t continue the
problem over the time phase that you need, as a friend
might.”
How do people feel
after they have called
“It was helpful, every time I spoke to anybody
it helped relieve tension and frustration.”
“By my phone call I gained a lot more confidence to be able
to lift my head up and try to carry on with life for the
sake of my children.”
“I think calling The Worry Help Line gave me the
confidence in me. The fact that somebody understood, did not
criticize, did not palm me off, did not judge or advise- I
mean they never really advised me to do anything in
particular, but gave me back my confidence in me as a
person. And that gave me the confidence to go on.”
I am thinking of
calling. Should I?
If you think you might benefit from confidential
emotional support then we are here for you. We will not
judge you if you call. We understand that sometimes it can
feel difficult to pick up the telephone. But once you dial
1-866-worry4u you will begin to feel relief as you have
taken the first step in making your life better
“I would tell anyone to call The Worry Help
Line because they’ve always helped me and you haven’t got
anything to lose. If they don’t help you, it’s just a phone
call, you don’t have to tell anyone that you’ve called them
and it’s all anonymous. It’s worth a try. Even if you aren’t
on the point of depression, you can still be going through
immense pain and distress- almost unbearable - and the worry
help line staff are fantastic at easing your pain.”
“It’s a step on the road to wherever you want to go. I
was feeling very depressed and very lonely, my life was just
going round and round in a circle. By phoning 1-866-worry4u
it was the first step on the way forward.”
Are you confidential?
Everything a caller says is confidential to The
Worry Help Line unless:
- We have informed
consent from a caller to pass on information
- We are passed
information about acts of terrorism or bomb warnings
- A caller attacks or
threatens or to states they will cause bodily harm to
another
Why is there a fee
to speak to you?
We charge a fee for our services because we
believe what we offer to you is valuable and helpful. This
is our business, and we determined the fee to be very
affordable. We charge 1.99 a minute, with the first 5
minutes free. This means you can speak for as long as you
wish or as little as you want, or call as often as you need.
The point is, we actually save you money. No driving to find
a local free therapist or community service organization, no
traffic, no paper work, insurance forms, private and
confidential, helpful and available 27/7.
Lets face it, your stress
and worries is making your life hard, and it affects your
life and those around you.. For just a few dollars, you can
speak to a professional that can help make your life more
manageable, help you feel better and offer you a neutral ear
to help you regain your life.
We are here to help you
worry less so you can enjoy life more!!
My teenager
things he knows it ALL. No matter what the topic, he thinks
he knows it all the answers. Sure, he is bright, but there
is just so much we can take. We are beginning to feel
not only less intelligent, but pretty stupid in dealing with
him as parents.
Sally and James - Spokane WA
Ok, so you have a bright kid. Keep him challenged as he
continues to learn, he will continue to do well in school.
Which means a great college and an excellent career and
before you know it, all that suffering turns into a son that
will soon send you to Europe and buy you a home in Palm
Beach. So hang in there....and just for you, we have The
Captain Smartypants store. Full of products for the know-it
all.
My boyfriend admitted to having an affair and stated that he
wants to have affairs with other women, but still loves me
and that I shouldn't mind as this will have no affect on
our relationship. I am worried that I will lose him if I say
he cannot have affairs on the side What do I do?
Nancy - New Jersey
This is easy....Leave him. Leave him now, Go far away. You
do not need to be treated like that. Consider this, he has
already left you every time he has an affair. So pack him up
and move him out.
It is election time and it is my first time voting. I
have studied all the issues, have selected the candidates
that I want for my State, decided on new propositions and
who I want for president. I am worried that I will not
complete the forms correctly and that I will screw up. This
may sound silly, but because it is my first time, I want my
vote to count when Nov 2 comes.
Ruby J - Seattle
First, congrats on voting for the first time. Think of the
power you have when you vote. I mean, it can be your single
vote that elects the President. In that case, I hope you
vote for the same guy I will. As far as the voting
forms...do not worry. They will help explain them to you at
the voting booth. That is what those nice volunteers help
you with. You will know who they are because they have the
'hello my name is .... tag' If someone offers to pay
you to vote for someone, say no....unless it is a million in
cash. So hang in there, do not worry. You will do just fine.
If it is buttons, or forms, or computers, or whatever, your
vote will get through. And if you mess up, well, it only
affects the well-being of the entire nation, whose voting
outcome rests on your shoulders! Now that is something to
worry about:-)
I never seem to have enough money. I have a full time job,
and I pay my bills, but there never seems to be enough left.
I worry everyday about having enough money to carry me
through life.
Frank R - Kansas
Everyone wants more money. The more we make, the more we
want. Ask any rich man if he has enough money and he will
say no. Money is just dirty paper passed on from one person
to another. The more paper we have, the more we can pass it
on to others as we buy more stuff. because isn't that what
we are doing...we are just buying more stuff. I like
stuff....lots of it. But for some reason, the money seems to
run out before I can buy more stuff. I could use credit
cards, and buy more stuff and not worry about paying until
next month. But, will I have more money by then??? Nope. I
can print my own, but that is illegal, and besides, who want
to inhale those toxic fumes, and prison green is not my
color. And who knows how long my life will be. My mother use
to say that I should save my money for a rainy day. Well, I
live in the desert, and I should be very rich as it never
rains, but I would rather not wait for that rare rainy day
and spend it now. Of course, having money as we age...well
that is something to worry about. You can forget Social
Security...that will not pay for much any more, and with
prices for health care etc raising, well....enjoy the money
now!!! But if I were you, I would speak to an expert who can
review your finances and set you on a road of less worry by
preparing for the future! Well, thanks for contacting us...I
am off to go shopping!
The Worry Club
I am in law school and the stress is unbelievable. I worry
so much, it gets in the way of my study. If you are not the
best, then future positions in promising law firms can not
be attained. I worry!!!! Help!!!
Carol C - NYC
Good for you...law school. Very admirable professional, as I
am sure we can all use more lawyers. I think worry, stress
and anxiety are just other words for law school. I mean,
they go together so well. I never heard of any lawyer who
did not experience all three during the course of their
degree. Besides, think law school is hard, wait till you
become an attorney. Getting those billable hours a week,
handling peoples lives, finding the perfect Armani suit to
impress the Judge, co-workers, clients, family and friends.
Making sure the Coach briefcase you carry has no scratches
and the Gucci shoes are highly shines. Then there is the
car...do you go for the convertible sports, the big fancy
car, maybe a Rolls. Such choices to make once you graduate.
So, don't sweat the studies, just do it, as you will soon
find that law school was a breeze once you hit the work
force. But...should the worries really be affecting you, be
sure to visit your school counselors for some advice, join a
good study group, and try and find some free time to relax.
The Worry Club
I live in the Phoenix, Arizona metro area (as I believe you
are located as well) and have big worry. The West Nile
thing. I am so afraid to go outside because I may get bit by
a mosquito that carries the disease. Sometimes, I may get a
bug bit and worry that it is a mosquito bite and then the
worry becomes obsessive. HELP!
Mandy S - Phoenix, AZ
How perfect an email. I too worry about West Nile in a big
way. I even have become addicted to Deet. I carry the bug
spray with me everyplace I go. It is now an extension of my
arm as it is never out of reach. Just the other day, I was
visiting a friends home in Central Phoenix, and one of
the people with us had just recovered after 5 weeks of West
Nile...and they lived just down the street from my friend.
So, of course, I sprayed again with my Deet. I could
have chosen to stay inside...but I just love having a tan.
So I just do my ODC things, like always refilling the water
birdfeeder each day with new water, always making sure
the water in the dogs pool is fresh and clean. Spraying my
deet and so on. I mean if the bug gets you...you may not
even get sick, many do not, but I take precautions anyway.
But...just in case I do get it, I figure that if anything, I
will get some much needed rest from work, most likely lose
weight, catch up on some books, watch old movies and become
a couch potato. And of course, as I have a great tan...will
still look healthy:-) So just do what the pros tell you we
should do to protect yourself. And be sure to check to see
if your neighborhood has been sprayed, and if not..when. And
besides, our summer is almost over and we will be in
post-summer ( I believe we have 4 seasons. pre-summer,
summer, hell, and post-summer)
The Worry Club
Help...I feel like a child trapped in an adult body. I do
not want to grow up. Can I remain successful, will I
age well, who will care for me when I get too old to take
care of myself. I worry so much that my actions are starting
to regress to a child.
Hilary T - California
Oh please...give it a rest already. There is nothing wrong
in feeling like a kid. If anything, it is what will keep you
young at heart. And if we feel young, we tend to feel
better. Sure, we may age and our looks will fade. But thank
goodness for plastic surgeons and botox (should you wish to
freeze that smile) I tend to stay away from mirrors. And
when the time comes and you need help just to get to the
bathroom...well check yourself in to a fine elder care
resort, which you will be able to afford because you will
remain successful so you can afford the luxury of
exceptional resort care. But heck...this is life, and
getting older sucks big time. So, chin up (get a doctor if
you need it lifted) and go out and buy a Playstation..I just
did and I feel wonderful! So many games, so little time.
The Worry Club
Can to much worry kill you? I seem to worry a lot about
everyday happenings. Sometimes I can not sleep or eat, and I
worry that I may get sick.
John B - Chicago
Can worry kill you? Well, I am still breathing. But
actually, yes, if you do not take care of yourself because
of this, you can make yourself sick. So, we strongly suggest
that you seek professional assistance if you worry so much
it keeps you from functioning clearly and taking care of
yourself correctly.
I worry
everyday about all types of stuff. But I also know that most
of the worry is not in my control...and what I can control,
I can cope with. I use humor a lot, keep my mind active, and
basically worry about others so I do not need to worry for
myself. Some say that is kind of screwed up...but guess
what, I am happy, deal with things well and have great hair
days all the time. So John, seek some professional
assistance and learn to relax and enjoy life as best as
possible.
The Worry Club
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